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Oscar Pistorius crying for himself or for Reeva?

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Oscar Pistorius must cry his way out of this one

We all know people who think highly of themselves. They consider themselves different from others and deserving of special treatment. Oscar Pistorius is taking this tendency to its extreme …

Bladerunner Oscar Pistorius’ grandiosity expects a great deal of special attention- the best table in a Melrose Arch-restaurant, his arrogance of asking a friend to take the rap for him after discharging a gun at Tashas, his irresponsible behaviour on the Vaal river , causing great frustration for speedboat- lovers in the Vaal!

Psychologists use the term narcissistic to describe people who portrays a grandiose sense of self-importance who are preoccupied with receiving attention. In Greek mythology, Narcissus was a young man in love, charmed by the loving Echo. He was adamant to win over her love. Narcissus spent his days admiring his own image reflected in a pool of water. In a sense Reeva can be compared to the enigmatic and ethereal Echo- she will always remain in people’s hearts.

The Narcissistic Oscar Pistorius

Each individual has an idiosyncratic unique way of experiencing loss. Psychophysiological, affective and cognitive-behavioral factors, such as the mode of death, the relationship with the deceased, subcultural norms and prior losses play a significant role. Our past surely defines us and in Oscar’s case , he had to deal with his parents’ divorce and his mother’s death at a vulnerable age of 15. Oscar cannot cope with loss. On a deep subconscious level, he felt that his mother abandoned him when she died. His psychological birth position in his family is that of a middle child of three. The middle child often feels squeezed out. Such a child may assume a “poor me” attitude and can become a problem child, especially when experiencing trauma. A traumatic event is like an infection- it does something to one’s psyche. The bladerunner’s behaviour strongly correlates with the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders)- criteria of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Crying for Reeva?

Is the bladerunner crying for Reeva? Certainly not. During his cross examination by The South African State Prosecutor Gerrie Nel, he appeared to be extremely argumentative. The realization of the immensity of what he had done and the fact that he is facing imprisonment overwhelmed him…this is very traumatic in itself, hence he is crying for himself. He is on the brink of losing everything. Monday,12 May 2014 will be Day 30 of the most talked about trial in South Africa. If Gerrie Nel calls a psychologist to the stand, more holes will be identified and needless to say, the grieving mother of Reeva will get some sense of closure. This time, Oscar Pistorius’ controlling nature is not going to save his skin. Prosecutor Gerrie Nel is indeed a predator circling around his prey…

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Oscar Pistorius Trial: Reeva Steenkamp

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Reeva Steenkamp

Oscar Pistorius Trial: Evidence regarding Reeva Steenkamp

Reeva Steenkamp tried to protect her head

She was in a defensive position when she was hit by the last shots Oscar fired through the locked toilet door, according to a ballistics expert. Captain Chris Mangena told the Court whilst bending forward to demonstrate:

• The first shot struck her in her hip, standing up. It flung Steenkamp onto a magazine rack in the toilet.

• The bullets Oscar Pistorius used were designed to cause maximum damage to human tissue.

• The second shot missed her and ricocheted.

• There was a break between shot one and two.

• By then she was seated with her back to the wall.

• According to his findings, she had both hands over her head, across each other.

• She had a wound to her left hand where it was hit by the same bullet that struck her in the head.

In definite anguish and fear she did the natural thing for any person in physical danger: covered her head, but she couldn’t save her own life.

What was Oscar’s position?

Mangena said the height of the holes in the door and the trajectory of the bullets indicated that Oscar Pistorius was not wearing his prosthetic legs when he fired. Another forensics expert testified earlier that the position of the marks a cricket bat made when Oscar tried to open the door, indicated Pistorius was on his stumps when he used it.

One would expect 2 police experts to have cleared that out before the trial, or not? Confusing me, is that Oscar Pistorius’ defense lawyer, Barry Roux, challenged both testimonies.

Mangena stood his ground even when Roux displayed his usual sarcasm.

Data from the iPad

The State called Colonel Mark Sale who testified that Pistorius had visited porn and used car websites shortly before Steenkamp died. Data on the iPad 3 and an iPad 2 that was found on the scene, had the same type of content on the usage histories. A porn website was visited at 18:30 on 13 February 2013, and later a site of cars which included an Aston Martin Rapider.

Gerrie Nel will only be back in court on Monday. He is to have final witness meetings as he prepares to wrap up the state’s case. Five more witnesses will be called.

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Oscar Pistorius Trial Latest: Blerry Rude, the Cop and the Cricket Bat

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Oscar Pistorius Trial: Open the Door

After Day 8 of the Oscar Pistorius Trial, a few very important questions and vital issues come to mind and tend to linger. These issues include Oscar’s cricket bat and whether he hit the bathroom door with or without wearing his prosthetic legs. An accurate replica  (allegedly the original) of the door was brought into court for a physical demonstration regarding the marks on the original door in an attempt to clarify the situation concerning discrepancies pertaining to the testimony of Pistorius and forensic evidence.

Oscar stated in his affidavit that he hit the door with his artificial legs on. Prosecution (Gerrie Nel), states that detail (forensic evidence) as regards the marks on the door is consistent with somebody hitting the door at a lower height – they therefore want to prove that Oscar’s version of the events is not entirely truthful. The mission of Oscar’s defense is to prove that it is/was not possible for him to hit the door hard enough to damage it with a bat when he was not wearing his prosthetic legs.

Keep in mind that Pistorius was in peak physical condition at the time when Reeva Steenkamp was tragically killed in the early morning hours of Valentine’s Day 2013. As all professional athletes, Oscar has strong, finely tuned and developed abdominal,  gluteus maximus (buttocks) and thigh muscles. When walking without his prosthetic legs, these muscle groups in particular, should aid him in keeping his balance. It may therefore be safe to assume that Oscar would be better equipped to balance himself on his stumps than for instance, a middle-aged, mildly overweight man trying to balance himself for the first time on his knees with his feet lifted up.

Barry Roux, the lawyer for the defense, requested Lieutenant Colonel Johannes Vermeulen, a senior officer at the forensic science laboratory, to stand on his knees and to hit the door with the famed cricket bat. Vermeulen complied, whereafter Roux asked Vermeulen to lift his feet. Vermeulen told the court that he had difficulty in keeping his balance.  Pistorius kept his head down during the entire procedure and appeared to be busy making notes.

Still, whatever the circumstances – Oscar may not not have experienced the same difficulty as Vermeulen under similar circumstances. He may have had it easier.  Another vitally important point to consider is that Pistorius has had his entire life to master balancing and walking on his stumps.

Vermeulen is clearly not in the same toned physical condition as Oscar Pistorius. However, Lt Col Vermeulen has more than 29 years experience regarding scientific analysis, having completed about 1400 forensic investigations in this period of time. He handled his testimony well and did not appear too frazzled by Barry Roux, or Blerry Rude, as the defense lawyer is now nicknamed across the internet.

Oscar Pistorius Affidavit

Another confusing issue is the fact that Pistorius stated in his affidavit that: “I woke up, went onto the balcony to bring the fan in and closed the sliding doors, the blinds and curtains.”

Would all the noise in the quiet of night not have awoken Reeva and caused her to say something or ask him what he was doing? The tall fan should have made a noise on the balcony tiles as he dragged it in. If he did not drag the fan, but carried it – he clearly has no problem with balancing on his stumps.

At that stage, before the curtains were closed, it would not have been pitch dark inside the room and he could have noticed that Reeva was not in the bed, couldn’t he?

 Pistorius further states: “I grabbed my 9mm pistol from underneath my bed. On my way to the bathroom I screamed words to the effect for him/them to get out of my house and for Reeva to phone the police. It was pitch dark in the bedroom and I thought Reeva was in bed.”

Why did he not listen for her reply? Why did he not listen for any sound from her? If he was genuinely concerned for her safety, would he not first have woken her and told her to leave the room?

Fact to ponder 1:

If he screamed before he fired the shots, would Reeva not have screamed herself, or would she not at least have made a sound?

Fact to ponder 2:

Oscar also states in his affidavit:  “I went back into the bedroom and grabbed my cricket bat to bash open the toilet door. A panel or panels broke off and I found the key on the floor and unlocked and opened the door.”

Why did Reeva lock the toilet door from the inside? Was she scared? Did she want to punish Oscar after a fight? Who on earth locks the toilet door in the middle of the night – especially if your partner is fast asleep?

Fact to ponder 3:

Is it just me, but why was the cricket bat in the bedroom? Why wasn’t it kept with his other sporting paraphernalia, memorabilia and stuff?

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Oscar Pistorius: A Look at his Life

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What the people in Oscar’s life revealed about his character

Just a while before that tragic evening when Oscar’s life changed forever, he spoke to Mr. Bill Schroder, former head teacher at Pretoria Boys High School which Pistorius attended. Schroder wonders how the pressure Oscar was under all the time, affected his mind and reported that Oscar said  on occasion it would be so nice just to be ordinary.

Pistorius experienced huge trauma at age 15, when his mother died. Oscar, his older brother, Carl, and younger sister, Aimee, were much closer to their mom than their dad, according to Schroder. To lose their mother in an already broken home, must have been hell to cope with.  It was a critical episode of his childhood and Pistorius battled to come to terms.

Did he ever process it or is he still carrying emotional scars and the fear of losing the woman in his life? Would Oscar have been a different man if he had had a closer bond with his father to set the example? Or is it a case of like father like son, as far as relationships with women are concerned, except that Oscar would rather shoot than separate?

Schroder is of the opinion that the spotlight may have been too bright for Oscar. Fame brings power and power corrupts. Did Oscar Pistorius want ultimate power?

The materialistic Oscar

Pistorius loves material possessions, such as expensive cars, luxurious homes, race horses, exotic animals and trendy clothes. Was a girlfriend or more specifically, Reeva Steenkamp, seen as one of his possessions?

Uncle Arnold Pistorius reportedly said that Reeva and Oscar had plans together. Did Reeva know about those plans? Arnold also implied that Oscar was happier in his private life than he had been for a long time. So, before Reeva, was he unhappy for a long time?

Dr. Versveld, his orthopedic surgeon said he warned Oscar to cut down on his activities. He did everything that everyone else did. Was that a case of being driven to impress or trying to keep up with the latest beat? What is/was chasing Oscar Pistorius?

Relations with the opposite sex

Trish Taylor, mother of Samantha Taylor, an ex girlfriend of Oscar is glad that her daughter was not in his clutches any more. Could it be that Pistorius held her captive in some way and what did he do to Sammy? Reportedly, Sammy knew all about Oscar’s dark side and told a newspaper that he wasn’t the way people thought of him. What kind of person is he?

Reeva Steenkamp was supposed to give a speech to schoolchildren on the day she died at the hand of her lover, about an abusive family relationship she experienced.

Was it abuse that ended her life?

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More about Oscar Pistorius

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