Oscar Pistorius must cry his way out of this one
We all know people who think highly of themselves. They consider themselves different from others and deserving of special treatment. Oscar Pistorius is taking this tendency to its extreme …
Bladerunner Oscar Pistorius’ grandiosity expects a great deal of special attention- the best table in a Melrose Arch-restaurant, his arrogance of asking a friend to take the rap for him after discharging a gun at Tashas, his irresponsible behaviour on the Vaal river , causing great frustration for speedboat- lovers in the Vaal!
Psychologists use the term narcissistic to describe people who portrays a grandiose sense of self-importance who are preoccupied with receiving attention. In Greek mythology, Narcissus was a young man in love, charmed by the loving Echo. He was adamant to win over her love. Narcissus spent his days admiring his own image reflected in a pool of water. In a sense Reeva can be compared to the enigmatic and ethereal Echo- she will always remain in people’s hearts.
The Narcissistic Oscar Pistorius
Each individual has an idiosyncratic unique way of experiencing loss. Psychophysiological, affective and cognitive-behavioral factors, such as the mode of death, the relationship with the deceased, subcultural norms and prior losses play a significant role. Our past surely defines us and in Oscar’s case , he had to deal with his parents’ divorce and his mother’s death at a vulnerable age of 15. Oscar cannot cope with loss. On a deep subconscious level, he felt that his mother abandoned him when she died. His psychological birth position in his family is that of a middle child of three. The middle child often feels squeezed out. Such a child may assume a “poor me” attitude and can become a problem child, especially when experiencing trauma. A traumatic event is like an infection- it does something to one’s psyche. The bladerunner’s behaviour strongly correlates with the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders)- criteria of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Crying for Reeva?
Is the bladerunner crying for Reeva? Certainly not. During his cross examination by The South African State Prosecutor Gerrie Nel, he appeared to be extremely argumentative. The realization of the immensity of what he had done and the fact that he is facing imprisonment overwhelmed him…this is very traumatic in itself, hence he is crying for himself. He is on the brink of losing everything. Monday,12 May 2014 will be Day 30 of the most talked about trial in South Africa. If Gerrie Nel calls a psychologist to the stand, more holes will be identified and needless to say, the grieving mother of Reeva will get some sense of closure. This time, Oscar Pistorius’ controlling nature is not going to save his skin. Prosecutor Gerrie Nel is indeed a predator circling around his prey…
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