What Is Self Mastery?

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What Is Self Mastery?

Merriam Webster defines selfmastery as “the power to control one’s actions, impulses, or emotions”. Self mastery is important as it teaches you to limit your fears and the beliefs that create unhappiness in your life and relationships. Lao-tzu said: “He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still”.

Selfmastery can be attained by making certain cognitive changes in your life – basically by learning to think differently. St. Dominic once said: “A man who governs his passions is a master of the world. We must either command them, or be enslaved by them. It is better to be a hammer than an anvil.”

Who uses self mastery?

From CEOs and other professionals, to athletes and students, self mastery can be used in all walks of life to help you grow as a person. Self mastery, by changing your thought patterns, can help to improve your self esteem and help you to become more mindful and present at every moment of your life.

How do I learn self mastery?

It is so easy to fall into thought patterns which are negative or detrimental to you. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and learning mindfulness can help you to break out of these thought patterns and learn how to see yourself in a different – and better – light.

Learning how to change your thought patterns can be done in various ways and many courses are available to help you to learn self mastery. There are also many websites that have exercises and motivation to help you on your path to self mastery. Whatever road you choose to take to learn self mastery, remember that you needn’t do it overnight. By taking small steps you can change your life bit by bit and, one day when you look back, you will be able to see just far you have actually traveled on your road to selfmastery.

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Winter is here!

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Oh boy, Winter is really here!

My cup of steaming warm and generous hot chocolate is standing close to me where I sit in front of the warm orange and yellow glow of the crackling fire dancing away inside the fireplace … yes; I think to myself, winter is here.

And boy oh boy, how much do I love winter? Well, I struggle to find the words, and that people, is very rare being a writer and all.

Some people out there might and will disagree with me, but hey that’s fine. That is why we as the human race are unique. We all have our own favourites in life. My favourite season is winter and with winter comes warm and cosy fires in the fireplace, steaming cups of hot chocolate, incredible delicious curries and stews and yes, let us not forget the Glüwein!

But there are more reasons for me why I love winter so much.

There is the cosy – comfort feeling of togetherness. It brings people together. In front of fires, groups basking in the sun on bright days, hours in bed under warm and fluffy duvets watching movies and those angels out there busy spending hours in soup kitchens paying it forward in kindness to the less fortunate.

Also for me there is the excitement of new possibilities and new beginnings to come in spring after the winds of change have blown.  Winter always make me reflect with dearness on the words of the famous song, The Rose, made into a hit by the equally famous and fabulous Bette Midler.

“Just remember in the winter

 Far beneath the bitter snows

 Lies the seed that with the sun’s love             

 In the spring becomes the rose”

Just like we need to embrace and enjoy the seasons we also need to embrace the changes that the seasons in our lives bring forward. Yes, we all will experience cold and lonely winters from time to time, but we should never lose focus. Those winters are there for a reason. They allow our souls to take a step back, reflect on our situations, fill our lungs with breathes of crisp winter air and once the winter have passed start our new journeys set out for us.

I dare say winter is a celebration for me. A celebration of life, love and kindness.

Having said that, I do realise that there are those among us for whom the winter cold is nothing but a bleak and lonely desert where the cold winds of sadness keep on blowing them of course. My advice? Reach out to those souls. Embrace them with kindness and love and let them share in the loving warmth and comfort of our crackling fires, let them see they are not alone. Help them to see that after the cold there is life and hope.

I must admit we did wait a bit longer this year for the winter to arrive and when it did knock on the front door it made sure we know it is here. But judging on what I have just shared with you I hope that you will join me in my celebration to welcome winter with open arms, even though my arms will be open under the warm duvet. And join me to see the beauty of winter and reach out and spread the love, and warmth, of new things to come.

I want to conclude with this thought. We have so much to be grateful for. Whether it is the cold, crisp air in winter or the warm and lazy sun in summer, remember that if you can feel any of these things, you are still alive. And that my peeps, that alone will help to you to see the beauty in everything!

For now winter is here, so embrace enjoy and stay warm!

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Author: Philip J Nel

Short bio: The author contributes articles to websites as a guest writer and specializes in the following topics: life’s trials and tribunals, people and their stories, animals, nature and religion. He is also a proud cancer survivor and that has also taught him more about life. The author started writing at the age of 16 and has written several poems, short stories and even a novel.

Contact details: Email address pjnel@polka.co.za